Is My Too Muchness Screaming for Me to Stop?

Humans are complex beings- walking constellations of emotions, needs, and expectations. We carry dreams, traumas, desires, and ancestral patterns, all colliding with the fast pace of modern life. Add the nervous system into the mix, and suddenly things can spiral. You're overstimulated, overwhelmed, and wondering how you even got here.

As a woman, I’ve come to realise that much of what I once called “too much” was simply my nervous system sounding the alarm- not to shrink, but to listen. To pause. To ask: what if my too muchness isn’t the problem at all?

There is a particular wounding that many women carry- the wound of being “too much.” Too emotional. Too loud. Too opinionated. Too ambitious. Too sensitive. Too sensual. Too messy.

Our wild feminine nature, full of fire, flow, and feeling, has been historically denied, dismissed, or domesticated.

We’ve been taught to self-regulate by suppression, not integration. To hold ourselves . To tone ourselves down. To apologise before we even speak. And the paradox is painful: we're told we’re too much, while simultaneously being made to feel not enough. Not calm enough, pretty enough or productive enough.

This paradoxical state is simply exhausting.

But what if our “too muchness” is just an unmet need in disguise? A call for space, support, and safety- not shame?

I’ve come to see that my own spirals of overwhelm often aren't signs I need to shrink, but signals that I need to soften. To stop outsourcing my worth. To stop abandoning myself to meet unrealistic standards outlined and set by the constraints of the hierarchical society we live in. My body isn’t screaming because I’m too much- it’s screaming because I’ve stopped listening to my intrinsic truth and deep knowing.

Because I’ve silenced the very parts of me that are trying to guide me back home.

So maybe the question isn't, “Am I too much?”

Maybe it’s: Who told me I was? And why did I believe them?

We are not here to be palatable. We are not here to be half-alive. We are here to take up space in the full expression of our being- wild, soft, fierce, feeling and beautifully powerful in our flow.

So the next time you feel like you’re too much, or that your voice is too loud, too soft or simply unwelcome- Be still.

Let the silence hold you. Take a moment and feel into the edges of the discomfort you feel, asking why its there. You may even find wisdom in the ache and freedom in reclaiming the voice that you have been hiding.

Your too muchness isn’t a problem to fix.

It’s a portal to your truth.

Abundant Love,

Georgie x